You don’t have to talk to people about their abortions. All you have to do is learn a simple three-step  method for drawing friends and loved ones into post-abortion healing. You can use this technique with friends who have had an abortion during lunch break at work, or just in any causal conversation. Try run through these quick steps every time in a conversation about abortion. Thanks to this technique you can help break down some of the obstacles toward healing.
In a simple conservational way cover the following three points:
1. Announce that you have come to a new understanding of the abortion issue, that you have understood why people choose abortion and how it affects them.
2. Express your compassion for post-aborted women and men. Assure people that you have realized that they constantly face the fear that others may judge them.
3. Describe how you have heard of new programs that help women and men find release from the shame associated with past abortions. In short these steps can be simply summarized as:
-telling about your new understanding;
-demonstration of your sympathy;
-announcing that you have heard of new programs of healing.
It is not necessary to go deeply into the problem of the past abortion. Doing so will probably be seen as interfering. It is enough to cover these three points during a causal conversation.
For example: “Recently I read an interesting article about women who have had an abortion. This article gave me a totally new understanding of why women have abortions. I didn’t even realize before how much pressure they were under to abort. I never really understood before how often they feel condemned and judged by other people. These things can break the process of healing. Did you know that it takes about 10 years for women to recover emotionally from a past abortion? The good news is that there are a lot of new programs now how to help women and men who face with post-abortion problems.”
In such a way you will plant the seeds, and then those who have had abortions will know that you are a person who can understand and sympathy them. Remember theses three key-words: understanding, compassion, and hope. The first step is to announce your understanding. The second step is to express your compassion and sympathy. The third step is to assure that there is hope for healing.
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