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| Free Yourself to Live |  Firstly, you should answer the following questions:
- Do you suffer with depression, guilt, shame or self -blame?
- Do you recoil when you look in the mirror?
- Is it difficult for you to forgive yourself for what you have done?
- Do you have such feeling as if you are damaged goods?
- Have you experienced an abortion?
- Were you ever abused or raped?
- Did you suffer a serious violation of your self like incest or sexual molestation?
Naturally that we get hurt severely when choices we make or the choices someone else makes us suffer emotionally, physically or even spiritually. Such hurts get internalized causing the pain becomes a "hidden thing of shame." As long as something like the pain of abortion, rape, incest or abuse is hidden, it provokes shame and guilt. The thing that is hidden has big influence upon you, actually it can harm you. These hidden things of shame dominate our life. Just because of these kinds of hurts they are often called life dominating problems.
Unfortunately, they do not leave with time. In actual fact, they often come back with superior intensity later.
You have to understand that this is the nature of post-traumatic stress.
You can not just wash the feelings of guilt and shame away with soap. You can not just run off the nightmares. As a rule, people live with a scar of hidden shame that too often results in depression.
Actually, if you look just at one trigger issue that has impacted about 50 million women in the united states, the symptoms of abortion related aftermath read just like post traumatic stress. The most popular phrase of women of abortion is "I can't forgive myself." Those who have been forced by someone else are inclined to say, "I will not trust them ever again."
Untreated, these life-dominating problems can lame the person. You can not escape from your real self. You can not throw away the painful memories. These life-dominating issues eventually result in an emotional implosion.
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