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| Child Lost Replacement |  Some women after having terminated pregnancy with the help of abortion may become overwhelmed with guilt. That’s why very often they may become pregnant again desiring to replace the child lost.
During the second pregnancy, researches have found that most of the second abortions occur within a year of the first one. If the pregnancy happens as a result of desire to replace a child it certainly should be treated as a “crisis” pregnancy, with much necessary support and tender loving care, or else repeated abortion may happen.
Notwithstanding what is being told about abortion, its aftereffects are strong and our society has not began yet to fully understand the size of damage abortion can cause.
If an abortion has occurred in a marriage there is a high risk to break the dynamics of a healthy and happy family. It is especially true if next children were born out of desire to replace what was lost to the abortion. It affects both children that are born after an abortion and children that were born before it.
Some children may develop a “survival syndrome”. This syndrome certainly exists in many children that were affected by abortion. The children will do just anything they can in order to please their parents and people around them. They often feel that they can not do enough to earn respect and love. But on the other hand if a child is misbehaving and call for some discipline and reprimand, parents may be so overwhelmed with guilt over past abortion that hesitate to reprimand the child when they called to so. This incapacity to discipline and reprimand the child can be present in parent-child relationship in both with children that were born before abortion as well as with children that were born after.
Children that are born after abortion, and especially children that were born out of desire to replace a child lost, may go through some very difficult periods of time in their relationships with their parents. One of the most difficult things that parents have to learn that nothing will ever replace what was lost. This can be performed by realizing that what was lost was very precious, unique and irreplaceable.
In order to brake through this kind of vicious cycle, the couple who may have had an abortion would need some deep soul searching and maybe some professional help as well. There is good news that there are lots of people today who come forth and talk about their individual experience of abortion and its aftereffects on their lives. The support groups are being created around the world where people help each other on the path of healing after abortion.
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