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| Support Your Daughter | It is natural for parents to have strong feelings about their daughter’s pregnancy. As parents your first main concern is to defend your daughter and her future. That’s why it is quite normal to feel worried, sad, angry, or scared. What you say to your child who is dealing with an unexpected pregnancy is very important – your child needs you now and your participation is priceless.
Helpful Advice for Parents
 Listening To Your Daughter
The solitary most important thing you can do is listening to what your daughter tells about her feelings. It is very significant that your daughter feels comfortable making the decision and that she feels that she is the chief decision-maker. Sure, you will finally tell her what you think and how her decision will influence you, but realize that this must really be her decision. Let her search how she feels first.
Avoid Blame
It is alluring to blame someone – your daughter, her boy-friend involved, or even yourself. On the other hand, there is little point in making a pregnancy decision in a punishing manner. It won’t make things any better, and it won’t improve your daughter’s self-esteem, a vital factor in sound decision making. Chances are she feels pretty bad about herself right now and is looking to you for support.
If your daughter’s pregnancy is really the result of a reluctant encounter, like rape or incest, please get help for her from a rape crisis center or crime victims help center.
The majority of parents want to blame the young man involved with your daughter in this pregnancy. Be careful not to complex an antagonistic situation that drives your daughter to revolt. This is a time for support and guidance. Sometimes, parent-to-parent conversation can be useful.
Difficulty Coping
While most women feel relieved after making their decision, many continue to experience other feelings, such as sadness, loss, anger or guilt. You should know the warning signs of poor coping:
1. Eating more than usual or loss of appetite.
2. Absence of sleeping or sleeping all the time.
3. Not capable to focus, unexpectedly doing poorly in school.
4. Cutting herself off from friends, staying in her room continually.
5. Crying a lot. Powerless to be with people.
6. Too much anger or irritability.
7. Not caring about her looks or what she wears.
8. Hinting about suicide or talking about death.
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