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| Situations of Emotional Problems |  There are times in all of our lives when we have something important to share, but we can’t find the words, or the courage, to share it. Unexpected pregnancy is the very that case. And right now she needs your help and support.
Naturally your first reactions may be shock, anger, sadness, disappointment, and fear. You may have supposed for a while or you may have asked and she may have denied. Teenagers, particularly, use disavowal when faced with circumstances that seem overwhelming. And, you may be feeling overwhelmed, too. It will help you to talk to another adult and share your strong feelings.
After your first reactions, which you may want to keep confidential, you will be exploring inside yourself for understanding, patience and compassion. Keep in mind, your daughter has chosen to come to you with this crisis. Now you must decide how you will react to her showing of trust.
Girls could be at higher risk for emotional problems in the following situations:
 A boyfriend who has left her – a relationship breakup.
Parents who won’t let her see her boyfriend.
If the pregnancy was wanted.
If there has been a recent death or other trauma in her life.
If she has been emotionally or physically abused.
If she has chosen abortion and her religion says abortion is ethically wrong.
If she blames someone else and cannot take responsibility for her decision.
It is significant to be available to her during the abortion experience. Look carefully through her aftercare instructions and make sure she is taking her medicines properly. Provide her with opportunities to talk about her feelings about this experience and how she is thinking about it. If you observe any of the signs of poor coping and they are not getting better, call the clinic or a mental health agency in your town.
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