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| Man’s Symptoms of the Child’s Loss |  Probably the most obvious and consistent symptom in men caused by losing a child from abortion is anger. A counselor, who personally experienced the abortion decision, reported that every man he has counseled has a higher level of anger than before the procedure of abortion. Besides, each has acted on that anger in some way that was harmful to himself or someone else. Another counselor equaled this anger with that of a “ticking time-bomb just waiting to go off”.
A man’s anger and frustration of not being able to protect his unborn baby, because of abortion, becomes apparent itself in several ways. He often begins to use alcohol and drugs in order to dull the pain of feeling he took part in or was too “weak” to prevent the death of his unborn baby. Great number of men becomes workaholics in order to avoid contact with other people or in a desperate effort to succeed in a crucial aspect of their life.
Almost always the relationship fails after a decision to abort. Moreover, because of previous abortion, future relationships with women are often difficult or even impossible. In fact, a woman has total control over the decision to abort their baby, leaving the father no legal recourse. This absence of control regarding a critical, life-impacting decision often produces considerable resentment and distrust towards women. As a result of a previous experience, they do not want to be put into another situation where another pregnancy may occur and they have no control of the outcome.
Can you image that some men experiment with homosexuality? It happens because homosexual relationship allows men to have a successful sexual relationship without any commitments and worry of pregnancy. Besides, men may suffer from other forms of sexual dysfunction like impotency and addiction to pornography and masturbation.
There are many other symptoms of a man struggling with a loss from abortion. He may suffer from many dysfunctions of the organism such as:
- sleeplessness,
- panic attacks,
- poor coping skills,
- flashbacks,
- nightmares,
- self-imposed isolation.
He may be unable to keep a job due to his incapacity to manage decision making, or he may be an extreme risk-taker in work and social environments, setting himself up for failure. This may come from the feeling that he deserves what he gets for being a loser and failing when it counted most – protecting his unborn baby.
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